J.O. wrote: “Hello, Ms. LaPoint. I have a question about my size down below. I am 8 inches long and 2 inches wide when erect. However, I deal with self esteem problems and have very low confidence in myself in the bedroom or even trying to find a date.
My question is about penis enlargement surgery. Is being bigger a good thing? If I were to go through with surgery I would wish to be near or over 12 inches long and 2.5 inches wide when erect, roughly 9 while flaccid. Once again my question is about my penis size and the idea of enlargement surgery.”
Liz says: Dr. Elist, a board-certified urologist and surgeon has this to say on his website: “Occasionally, a perception of inadequate penile length is a manifestation of underlying feelings of inadequacy in general. In these instances, psychological counseling may prove helpful.”
In other words, J.O., your admitted low self-esteem and already-large endowment would probably make you an unlikely candidate for penis enlargement surgery. Considering the risks involved with all types of surgery, like infections that can lead to death, surgery is nothing to take lightly. Approximately 225,000 people die every year from medical malpractice. Is going from large to enormous worth the risk of death?
Like Body Dysmorphic Disorder, there’s something called Penile Dysmorphic Disorder. Men who suffer from this are the least likely to be satisfied with surgery to enlarge their penises, according to one study. People with BDD have an obsessive fixation with their appearance, often focusing on imagined flaws, and are never happy with how they look so they repeatedly get cosmetic procedures until they’re barely recognizable anymore. My guess is that if being larger than the average man isn’t good enough for you, 12″ won’t be either.
Then there’s the probability that lengthening to 12″ would be an impossible feat anyway. Based on my research, most male enhancement surgeries are for helping men with erectile dysfunction (ED), and lengthening procedures don’t actually lengthen the shaft, but reveal more of the penis that’s simply hidden by cutting the ligament that connects the penis to the pelvic bone.
You might want to also think about what effect it might have on your sex life. Not many people could handle an extra-large penis. You asked if “being bigger is a good thing”–well, I’ve received letters from men who are really large and they all say it’s been a headache trying to find someone who enjoys and appreciates their gargantuan manhoods. This might be one of those “Be careful what you wish for” warnings. (Click here to watch my video “Help! His Penis Is Too Big“)
Try focusing less on the size of your penis and more on what can actually lead to you using it with others more often: your passions, interests, personality, confidence, intelligence, knowledge, and compassion for others. Put your mental and emotional energy into living life and evolving, and hopefully this desire will be a thing of the past!