The Naked Advice

Model & Writer Liz LaPoint answers your questions about dating, sex, and relationships

S.B. wrote: “My wife of four years is pregnant with our second child. She’s in her seventh month and the idea of sex with her in her current condition makes me uncomfortable. It isn’t the belly, I don’t think I mind her being overweight, it’s much more that it almost feels inappropriate. The last time we did it, about a month ago, the whole time I was thinking “my kid is in there!” and I actually faked an orgasm. I didn’t mind at three months but now I guess the “deniability” is gone. It’s not like she’s asked and I refused I just have not initiated as I normally do. Am I an awful person?”

Liz says: Everything you’ve described is normal. Many men find it difficult to maintain arousal during sex with their mate’s pregnant bodies, for understandable reasons, and eventually after the child is born sex with their partner returns to what it used to be. While I get why you’d be weirded out by the fact that your “kid is in there!”, it might help you to know that the mucus plug at the bottom of her cervix prevents semen from coming into contact with the baby. Click here to read more about sex during pregnancy by the Mayo Clinic.

I’m curious though: did you not feel this way with the first pregnancy?

Anyway, just be open and honest with her about how you feel, so she’s not left to assume the worst, and enjoy other forms of affection and sexual activities with each other. You know what some women love more than intercourse while pregnant? Massages!


2 thoughts on “Sex With His Pregnant Wife Feels ‘Inappropriate’

  1. Coyote from Orion says:

    For me it is a similar type thing to peers who can justify lying to get sexual needs met outside of the relationship. I aren’t highly sexually motivated and don’t have long term monogamous relationships. The importance for me in any connection is honesty and protecting those we love. I don’t understand why some people must have sex near and close to them yet the basis of it is not the care of the other person. I would rather be alone than use someone


  2. Coyote from Orion says:

    As long as I supported my partner and were there for whatever she needed me to do in that time

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