V. wrote: “I am an engaged male in my thirties. I like going to porn theatres to masturbate with other men around. It is thrilling to me and I get very turned on listening to the other men and seeing them jerk off.
I have told my future wife and she is ok with it. Am I a perv, I feel dirty about this.
Advice please !!! Thanks.”
Liz says: I find it interesting that you seem unconcerned with the possibility of being arrested for indecent exposure. Going to jail for this is a big deal and could result in having to register as a sex offender, depending on your state’s laws.
But are you a “pervert” for being turned on by other men doing the same thing you are? No. I suspect that the reasons you feel “dirty” about it are because you’ve either:
A) internalized homophobic messages
B) you feel some sort of guilt because it feels like cheating on your fiancée, even if she says she’s okay with it
C) you’re feeling conflicted about your sexual orientation
D) all of the above
There’s nothing wrong with you for being aroused by other dudes masturbating, but it’s not worth getting arrested for. Instead, maybe when you look at porn at home you can imagine your theater experience 😉