The Naked Advice

Model & Writer Liz LaPoint answers your questions about dating, sex, and relationships

Tyler wrote: “I have a question. I am a 25 year old male and I have been with only 2-3 different women in my life. The current girlfriend I have been with for 4 years and I have a slight problem. I don’t know why but I am incapable of reaching orgasm while inside a woman. I don’t know why this is and I think it’s starting to ruin my current relationship. I am deeply concerned about this seeing as how I wanna propose to this girl, please help.”

Liz says: Since you stated that you’re incapable of reaching orgasm while inside “a woman”, meaning all of your partners, not just your current girlfriend, I suggest you get a thorough medical check-up. There could be several causes to identify, but it’s important to rule out medical reasons first by receiving an examination by a physician.

Once your doctor rules out medical reasons, you can delve into other possibilities. Depression (or anti-depressant medication), certain religious influences, past sexual abuse, and sexual fetishes can all play a role in affecting a man’s ability to maintain an erection or enjoy traditional sexual relations.

But there’s also another possibility that’s less “OMG what’s wrong with me?” Perhaps you’re simply too nervous and afraid of an unintended pregnancy or sexually-transmitted infections. Even wearing protection, sometimes concerns over very real consequences of sexual intercourse can keep you from thoroughly enjoying the act. Are you able to orgasm from receiving oral sex? Or mutual masturbation?

If you’re stressing about these things, try opening up to your girlfriend about your concerns. Have a real, honest discussion and hopefully you both would know where to take it from there. You mention you’ve been together 4 years, so I’m wondering how you’ve handled it all this time, but it’s never too late to start this conversation if you haven’t already.

To learn more about male anorgasmia, click here and here.

But please remember to get that medical exam!

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