The Naked Advice

Model & Writer Liz LaPoint answers your questions about dating, sex, and relationships

Steve wrote: “My wife has this fantasy of having sex at one of our parent’s houses, which really means mine since they have spare bedrooms. We were over for a weekend and she kept asking. The thought of doing it in the same house of my parents made me frankly want to vomit. I’m having a lot of trouble relating to this fantasy. I understand perhaps a voyeuristic aspect of doing it in a friend’s house, but like, family members??
Am I not normal in feeling so weird about this? Is this fantasy normal on her part?”

Liz says: Relax, you’re both normal!

I suspect that the fantasy comes from her teen years, when she and her then-boyfriend had to sneak around excitedly to find a secluded room to make out. Horny teens don’t have their own place so they resort to getting by with making out in their bedrooms, even if their parents are home, or in their cars, or the locker room at school. In other words, maybe she’s turned on at the thought of re-creating the thrill of trying to quietly get a quickie?

And it’s understandable that for you, the thought of any family being around and possibly hearing or interrupting you two is a boner-killer. You’re both normal!

You two are married, which means you should be able to talk to each other about intimate matters in depth. Have you asked her why she has this fantasy? Have you explained how it grosses you out? After discussing it, I’m sure you can come to a compromise. Maybe your suggestion of a friend’s house could excite her, too.

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5 thoughts on “His Wife Wants To Do It At His Parent’s House

  1. RedSportsCar says:

    I read somewhere (sorry, can’t recall the source) that “There’s nothing quite so interesting as your own fantasies, and nothing quite so ridiculous-sounding as someone else’s!” There may not be so much hope in meeting in the middle on this one, as you used the phrase “makes me want to vomit.” I think Liz’s possible explanation for the source of the fantasy is pretty insightful, and it may explain and make you feel less odd/repulsed by it. As a reader/observer, it didn’t strike me as that extreme or weird, either. Best of luck!

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  2. Coyote from Orion says:

    Reminds me of when I lived in England. They can whinge about anything. One girlfriend whinged about the sex being too good. One housemate whinged about my habit of showering daily

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  3. Coyote from Orion says:

    A lot of people get married and complain that their wife never wants to do it anywhere.

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  4. Robert Barowski says:

    There’s nothing wrong with wanting to “do it” in that kind of environment … it’s thrilling and fun. Plus, it serves as a way to throw the middle finger to all of the rules your parents had for you when you were younger in regards of having company over that was of the opposite sex.

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