S wrote: “Hi Liz, I’ve been seeing a colleague of mine lately. She’s amazing, beautiful and very sweet. But once I saw her feet and it really turned me off. It kind of changed my thoughts about her. How should I act?”
Liz says: If something about someone is a big turn-off, you can’t force yourself to look past it. You can’t force yourself to be more attracted to someone by trying to focus on their positive attributes, and trying to change them isn’t healthy, either.
I find your question interesting. Instead of asking “Does this make me shallow?” or “I’m going to stop seeing her, how do I handle it since she’s also a work colleague?”, you asked a very vague “How should I act?”
You should act like a caring person and decide whether you see a future with her or not. If not, let her down gently, don’t ghost on her or do anything else that might create more animosity than necessary with a coworker. You can say she’s lovely but you’re not feeling the chemistry and leave it at that.