I discovered Andrew from listening to an episode of the podcast Voices of Deconversion and quickly found his story both relatable and incredibly insightful. His experiences are unfortunately not unique and I believe it’s important his work (and the similar works of others) should be heard as much as possible in a culture that …
“Bryan” and “Cassidy” were engaged to be married already when I met Cassidy at work. We became good friends over a mutual love for the nightlife. We were in our 20s and still had the energy to hit the clubs on Sunset Boulevard after working a long shift. She opened up to me about her …
Sam wrote: “I had a question that’s been bugging me a lot lately. I know that people can be in whatever relationship they want and all that. But monogamy has always been important for me. The problem is that I keep hearing people say things about how hard monogamy is and how you can’t …
S.B. wrote: “Hey Liz, hope you’re doing great. Before I got married I used to write in a journal. I’m not great at expressing myself and am often insecure about sharing my thoughts with others so I found it a helpful outlet. Since I’ve been married, 6 years (I’m 26 if that matters) I have …
J.D. wrote: “I jerk off a lot to girls I know in real life. When I see them in real life I get nervous and get an erection within seconds. Do girls notice this?” Liz says: Are you wearing tight pants when you see them? If you’re not wearing this kind of swag, they’re probably not …
Freddie wrote: “Is it ever a bad thing to be attached to someone who is so loving and good to me but has suicidal thoughts every now and then?” Liz says: I think it’s crucial to know the difference between someone who has battled depression or other mental illnesses, sometimes culminating in suicidal ideation, and …
David wrote: “You seem to dispel a lot of myths about sex that constrain people. I was wondering if you had any thoughts on the alpha/beta binary and, to a lesser extent, the dom/sub binary. This is specifically all within the bedroom. I guess the biggest concern about alpha/beta is whether being conscientious, not being …
Steve wrote: “Hey Liz, hope all is well. I have a question that seems rather embarrassing but here goes. I have struggled with eating issues for ten years, going through behaviors like vomiting, extreme dieting, exercising constantly, etc. I’m not able to afford therapy but recently I’ve made some progress limiting this behavior. However, I’ve …
Mark wrote: “I was wondering if you had any thoughts on mental illness and sexuality. I’ve always felt very dominant in the bedroom, but there’s a psychological side of being dominant that’s become much harder for me as I’ve developed depression and issues with anxiety. Being submissive feels inauthentic, but it’s a little easier to …
Thomas wrote: “Hey Liz. I’m 23. My question is about ball-busting. I can’t remember when I got into it exactly but eventually about a year and a half ago I started seeking this from girls. I built up a tolerance and now it’s all I like. Now I don’t even try to have sex or …
The Naked Advice 