The Naked Advice

Model & Writer Liz LaPoint answers your questions about dating, sex, and relationships

J.D. wrote: “I jerk off a lot to girls I know in real life. When I see them in real life I get nervous and get an erection within seconds. Do girls notice this?” Liz says: Are you wearing tight pants when you see them? If you’re not wearing this kind of swag, they’re probably not …

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Freddie wrote: “Is it ever a bad thing to be attached to someone who is so loving and good to me but has suicidal thoughts every now and then?” Liz says: I think it’s crucial to know the difference between someone who has battled depression or other mental illnesses, sometimes culminating in suicidal ideation, and …

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David wrote: “You seem to dispel a lot of myths about sex that constrain people. I was wondering if you had any thoughts on the alpha/beta binary and, to a lesser extent, the dom/sub binary. This is specifically all within the bedroom. I guess the biggest concern about alpha/beta is whether being conscientious, not being …

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Steve wrote: “Hey Liz, hope all is well. I have a question that seems rather embarrassing but here goes. I have struggled with eating issues for ten years, going through behaviors like vomiting, extreme dieting, exercising constantly, etc. I’m not able to afford therapy but recently I’ve made some progress limiting this behavior. However, I’ve …

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Mark wrote: “I was wondering if you had any thoughts on mental illness and sexuality. I’ve always felt very dominant in the bedroom, but there’s a psychological side of being dominant that’s become much harder for me as I’ve developed depression and issues with anxiety. Being submissive feels inauthentic, but it’s a little easier to …

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Thomas wrote: “Hey Liz. I’m 23. My question is about ball-busting. I can’t remember when I got into it exactly but eventually about a year and a half ago I started seeking this from girls. I built up a tolerance and now it’s all I like. Now I don’t even try to have sex or …

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Emily wrote: “I’m having some trouble with my boyfriend. He’s not had a lot of confidence in the bedroom with me, and while that seemed normal enough, it’s actually gotten worse as we’ve tried to deal with it. He confessed to me that before we were together he watched a lot of porn. He says that …

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Max wrote: “I’ve had an issue recently where no matter what I read or what I’m told, I find it hard to get past some really toxic and depressing ideas. I don’t feel very attractive, so I feel like to be with a woman I would constantly have to prove that I’m good enough to …

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Steve wrote: “I know this isn’t the kind of thing you usually discuss and I hope it’s OK to ask. Two people I know well died in the last couple of months. One was my age, a good friend since high school, and one (two days ago) was someone I did a lot of business …

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Tom wrote: “I have this fantasy and I wonder if it is wrong or perverted? I have joined a few MILF sites and I see these incredibly sexy older women in their 40s and 50s having sex for the very first time on film with young black men. It gets me very aroused and I …

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