His Wife Doesn’t Enjoy Foreplay Anymore

S.C wrote: “Hey Liz, hope you’re doing great. My wife and I have been married for 6 years (although we are relatively young, in our 20’s). For the first few years, before lovemaking (we didn’t have sex before marriage ) we would “play around” a lot, foreplay, oral, etc, and she seemed to really love it …

He Can’t Talk To His GF About His Shrinking Fetish

J.O. wrote: “Hey Liz, so I have a shrinking fetish and I told my girlfriend about it but she does not like acknowledging it. She says it’s weird and she doesn’t like it. I have brought up my shrinking fetish to some other friends that are girls and they actually talk about it with me. …

Should He Talk His Partner Into Changing Her Appearance For His ‘Fetish’?

Frederick wrote: “Long acrylic and natural fingernails are a huge turn on for me. I’ve had this fetish since I was 6 and long nails can bump a female from an 8 to a 10. The problem is the girls I date or talk to don’t get their nails frequently done. How should I (if …

He Doesn’t Enjoy Being Dominant or Submissive

David wrote: “You seem to dispel a lot of myths about sex that constrain people. I was wondering if you had any thoughts on the alpha/beta binary and, to a lesser extent, the dom/sub binary. This is specifically all within the bedroom. I guess the biggest concern about alpha/beta is whether being conscientious, not being …

He No Longer Enjoys Being Dominant In the Bedroom

Mark wrote: “I was wondering if you had any thoughts on mental illness and sexuality. I’ve always felt very dominant in the bedroom, but there’s a psychological side of being dominant that’s become much harder for me as I’ve developed depression and issues with anxiety. Being submissive feels inauthentic, but it’s a little easier to …

He Has An “Addiction” To Phone Sex

Buddy wrote: “I have a sex addiction to calling phone sex. My wife knows and she was upset. And she wanted me to stop. I tried but unsuccessful, and she told me that if she finds out I did it again she would leave me. I want to stop. I have seen a professional about …

He’s Not A Bottom, He’s A Top

B. W. wrote: “So sometimes, idk why, but I just can’t be on bottom, I can’t stay hard. Same with getting oral…. it’s pissed off some girlfriends. I’ve concluded it’s a control issue that forms randomly. I’m 6’8 so I don’t exactly fit with all people. But say I’m in control… rock hard! Especially of she’s …